A Letter to Post Columnist Alyssa Rosenberg About Her Column on Marriage
"It's the Feminism, Stupid!"
Dear Ms. Rosenberg,
I have no doubt that you’re aware of my efforts to get the Post to recognize its imbalanced coverage of gender.1 I’ve been writing letters to Post columnists since 2018, after the Post published its Why can't we hate men? article.
You might recall that this past June I wrote to you about your Father’s Day article, which may have been well-intentioned but that instead, perhaps unwittingly, served to further feminist objectives under a deceitful guise of “helping fathers”.
This new letter is in response to your recent article, Liberals don’t like talking up marriage. Here’s how they can start.
Please don’t get me wrong. I believe your articles are sincere, and that your heart is in the right place. I also completely agree about the advantages of marriage – particularly for children – and that we need to strengthen and build solid marriages.
But you have completely overlooked the feminist pink elephant in the room, the obvious cause of the “retreat of marriage” you bemoan: a relentless, hateful, sixty-year feminist campaign of political, legal, and cultural indoctrination directed against men and masculinity.
Let me begin with a question: Did you know that one of feminism’s often-stated goals is the destruction of family and marriage, and the removal of fathers from both? Just two of many thousands of pieces of evidence can be found in feminists’ own words or in a consciousness-raising session held by feminist author Kate Millett.
That feminists have largely succeeded can be found by declining rates of marriage (aided by a feminist-indoctrinated media that encourages women to avoid marriage), and increasing numbers of fatherless children, and the risks to these children.
Your article says, “Improving access to marriage won’t reverse more than 50 years of marriage and child-rearing drifting apart.” Do you think it’s just a coincidence that this decline in marriage roughly coincides with the beginning of second wave feminism?
You write about increasing the supply of “marriageable” men, but you’re completely clueless that 60 years of feminism is, by far, the main reason there’s a shortage in the “eligible men” market. You really should read a book by forensic psychologist Helen Smith, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream — and Why It Matters. Smith perfectly summarized the problem in her book:
“American society has become anti-male. Men are sensing the backlash and are responding. They’re dropping out of college, leaving the workforce, and avoiding marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. The trend is so pronounced that a number of books have been written about this man-child phenomenon, concluding that men have taken a vacation from responsibility. But why should men participate in a system that seems to be increasingly stacked against them? [emphasis added]
“Most men aren’t dropping out because they are stuck in arrested development; they are acting rationally in response to the lack of incentives society offers them to be responsible fathers, husbands, and providers. In addition, men are going on strike, either consciously or unconsciously, because they do not want to be injured by the myriad of laws, attitudes, and hostility against them for the crime of happening to be male in the 21st century. Men are starting to fight back. Men on Strike explains their battle cry.”
Ms. Rosenberg, it’s clear that you and many of your associates at the Washington Post (as well as throughout Western media) are mostly clueless about what feminism has become, about feminism’s dark side. If I may suggest, to learn more you might want to start by reading my recent letter to Christine Emba in response to her recent “Men are lost” article.
My letter includes discussion of how feminism: is founded on lies, has become a hate movement, propagates “idiot hypocrisy” by telling obvious falsehoods, and briefly describes the damage caused by six decades of feminist lies and indoctrination.
Neither Emba’s quest to “help men” or yours to save marriage can be accomplished without taking a good, hard look at what feminism has become and the widespread damage that it has caused in its wake.
To adapt a well-known phrase, not directed at you personally, “It’s the feminism, stupid!”
This observation was recently confirmed by a February 2023 report by The Coalition to End Domestic Violence that described a 10-Year Suppression of the Truth on Domestic Violence by the Washington Post.