A Letter to Amy Dickinson About Husband Not Asking for Sex Since #MeToo
Advice Columnist Doesn't Understand the Movement's Dark Underbelly
Dear Ms. Dickinson1,
I occasionally read your advice column in the Washington Post, so I know that you usually give sound advice to your readers.
However, your recent column, My husband won’t initiate sex ever since the #MeToo era, overlooked what may actually be motivating the husband. I respectfully ask that you take the time to read this letter and to thoughtfully consider what I say here.
As a brief introduction, please know that I’m a proud lifelong reader of the Post who nevertheless has long noticed the paper’s gender bias, most notably its imbalanced coverage of domestic violence2 and its support for the provably false myth of a gender pay gap.3
But in 2018 my pride in the Post finally turned to shame after the paper published two undeniably gender-biased articles: Why can't we hate men? and Amber Heard’s libelous op-ed. Since then, I’ve been sending letters to Post columnists who have written articles that perpetuate an anti-male bias.
Your reply about this husband is another example of this bias.
That you propose the husband “…is someone who has sincerely misunderstood the lessons of the #MeToo movement and is so afraid of being “punished” that he has decided to completely shut off a side of his own personality”, is proof that it is you who doesn’t understand the true lessons and the dark underbelly of the #MeToo movement.
For proof, you really should take time to read one of my earlier posts that discusses what #MeToo wants people to ignore: women’s own corresponding bad sexual behavior and the female contribution to men’s sexual misconduct, #MeToo, Thy Name is Hypocrisy which I begin with,
“… #MeTwoFaced has gone too far. It has morphed from a movement for the expression of legitimate complaints by women about the sexual misbehavior of some men into a two-faced juggernaut that allows any man to be accused, tried, and sentenced in the court of public opinion, hounded out of his job, and made a social pariah without a shred of due process, often by anonymous accusers.”
But don’t take my word for it. For a revealing look at what just might be motivating this husband, you really should read anti-feminist Janice Fiamengo’s latest Substack post, Sh—ty Women in Feminism (subtitled “Years after MeToo, the witch hunt has not been disavowed”).
It thoroughly documents the false accusations behind Shitty Media Men, an online list created in 2017 by a smug, man-hating gender bigot, Moira Donegan. The list collected anonymous, unvetted allegations of sexual misconduct and assault against approximately seventy men who worked in media.
You really must read this article to fully understand what is likely driving this husband’s fears. Fiamengo ends it with the following:
“For those of us who care about justice for all, there can no longer be any doubt about the catastrophic destruction feminism seeks.”
Ms. Dickenson, please become more aware of #MeToo’s dark side before giving any more advice related to the movement.
I recognize that Ms. Dickenson is a syndicated columnist and not employed directly by the Post, but I felt it’s sufficient to include her as a “Post contributor”.
My observation was recently confirmed by a February 2023 report by The Coalition to End Domestic Violence that described a 10-Year Suppression of the Truth on Domestic Violence by the Washington Post.
In 2009 the Department of Labor produced a report, An Analysis of the Reasons for the Disparity in Wages Between Men and Women — Final Report which disputed the wage gap:
“… the raw wage gap [between men and women] continues to be used in misleading ways [emphasis added] to advance public policy agendas without fully explaining the reasons behind the gap.”