A Letter to Post Columnist Emma Uber About Her Article on a Woman Reporting Abuse 44 Years Later
A fourth letter that asks "Why doesn't the Post perform similar studies about the female abuse of men and boys?"
Dear Ms. Uber,
In the past few months I published open letters to other Washington Post columnists in response to their articles written as part of the paper’s Abused by the badge series.1
In those letters I explained that I’m a lifelong reader of the Post who nevertheless has long noticed the paper’s feminism-inspired gender bias, provable by its imbalanced coverage of domestic violence2 and made undeniable by its 2018 publication of the op-ed Why can't we hate men?, where the paper provided a platform for a radical feminist to broadcast to the world a Nazi-like hatred for men.
Although I commended these columnists for their fine work on both the investigation and the resulting articles, in these letters I implicitly posed the question,
“Why doesn't the Post perform similar studies about the abuse of men and boys?”
I then offered some suggestions for other investigations about the abuse of males that the Post, in the interest of true “gender equality”, might undertake, including:
Abused by their Teachers: to examine the rape of boys by their female teachers
Abused by the Washington Post: Male Victims of Domestic Violence: to examine how the Post has neglected male DV victims
Abused by Feminism: Marriage, Fathers and Families: to explore the impact of feminism’s oft-stated goal for the destruction of fathers and families
Abused by American Women: Sexual Assault and #MeToo: to examine the hypocrisy of #MeToo and false accusations of sexual assault
Abused by the Federal Government: Young Men and Title IX: to examine how the federal government has abused the civil rights of young men at U.S. colleges and universities
Abused by Chivalry: The Gender Empathy Gap: “… the striking and disturbing indifference of our culture to the suffering of men and boys in stark contrast to our evident concern for the suffering of girls and women.”3
Abused by the Police: How Feminism Forces Police to Enforce Unfair DV Laws: how unjust feminist-driven laws have implemented a two-tiered system of justice that is horribly biased against men
In response to your recent article, She waited decades to report her abuse. At 81, police say, he confessed, I’d like to suggest one more area for investigation by the Post: Abused by Women and Mothers: Boys and Sons Sexually Abused by Women.
Before I continue, please understand that I have deep sympathy for Stephanie, the woman profiled in your article, and the sincerest respect for her courage in pursuing her abuser after so many years. As a father of two millennial daughters, I’m horrified by the sexual abuse that some men commit, and welcome articles such as yours that illuminate the problem.
However, for the past several decades, the media has waged a biased, one-sided war on men, focused almost exclusively on male misbehavior (sexual and otherwise), without providing anywhere near equal consideration of female misbehavior (again, both sexual and otherwise), effectively propagating a myth of innocence, a worldview where females are only “sugar and spice”.
A book by self-described feminist Patricia Pearson, When She Was Bad — Violent Women and the Myth of Innocence, challenged this stereotype of innocent women:
Women commit the majority of child homicides in the United States, a greater share of physical child abuse, an equal rate of sibling violence and assaults on the elderly, about a quarter of child sexual abuse [emphasis added], an overwhelming share of the killings of newborns, and a fair preponderance of spousal assaults. The question is how do we come to perceive what girls and women do? Violence is still universally considered to be the province of the male. Violence is masculine. Men are the cause of it, and women and children the ones who suffer. The sole explanation offered up by criminologists for violence committed by a woman is that it is involuntary, the rare result of provocation or mental illness, as if half the population of the globe consisted of saintly stoics who never succumbed to fury, frustration, or greed [emphasis added]. Though the evidence may contradict the statement, the consensus runs deep. Women from all walks of life, at all levels of power—corporate, political, or familial, women in combat and on police forces—have no part in violence.
It is one of the most abiding myths of our time.
“…as if half the population of the globe consisted of saintly stoics who never succumbed to fury, frustration, or greed.”
Abused by Females: Boys and Sons Sexually Assaulted by Women and Mothers
For decades the Post has published thousands of articles about women and girls who are sexually abused by males, all but completely ignoring men and boys who are likewise sexually abused by females, including boys who are abused by their own mothers.
Recommended sources for your investigation:
You could start by reading the aforementioned book, “When She Was Bad”, to get a completely new perspective on female misbehavior and criminality
Visit the Female Sex Offenders — Female Sexual Predators Awareness page of the Canadian Children’s Rights Council web site, that reports 86% of the victims of female sexual predators aren’t believed, so the crimes go unreported and usually don’t get prosecuted
Visit New research shedding light on sex abuse committed by mothers against their sons, that reports on an Australian study that an estimated 4,800 Australian males had been sexually abused by their mother or step-mother before the age of 15. As one (female) sex therapist said in the article, “Everybody wants to put their mother on a pedestal. Nobody wants to think that their mother did something that is so horrible.” (Just add “or other females” to the quote and you’ll see part of the reason for #MeToo’s hypocrisy: women have been on a pedestal for so long, they’re no longer capable of admitting, or even seeing, their own dark side.)
Visit my post, Female Sexual Predators, which describes how women can also be sexual predators, every bit as vile and reprehensible as their male counterparts.
Finally, you might just want to do a Google search using “sexual abuse of boys by women and mothers” that lists hundreds of entries:
Ms. Uber, in closing, please allow me to summarize the reality of the feminist-inspired hypocrisy that the Post and nearly all of the Western media are guilty of by ending with a quote from anti-feminist Janice Fiamengo in a YouTube video, The Deception of Feminism:
“Feminism was never sane. It was never without deep rancor and bitterness against men, never free from the claim that women were absolute victims of male predation, never uninterested in destroying the family, never accurate in its claims about women’s social situation, never unwilling to slander men in the most vicious and unpitying ways, and it never expressed any appreciation for men nor recognition that men had made any contribution to society or that men had ever acted out of love and concern and compassion for women in the laws that had been made or social instruments that had been developed over time. It was always a deeply misandrist, man-hating, man-blaming kind of movement.”
Please consider writing about the abuse of boys by adult women and even mothers.
Sincerely,
Stephen Bond
Publisher of "Letters to The Washington Post" Substack
This observation was confirmed by a February 2023 report by The Coalition to End Domestic Violence that described a 10-Year Suppression of the Truth on Domestic Violence by the Washington Post.
From a video clip of anti-feminist Janice Fiamengo talking about the empathy gap