A Letter to Washington Post Advice Columnist Carolyn Hax About a “Compassionate” Woman Controlling a Man’s Whole Life
Hax's admission that men can also be victims of DV is welcome, but two parts of her reply indicate she still maintains a feminist-inspired gender bias
Dear Ms. Hax,
I believe that you’re aware of my efforts to get the Washington Post to recognize its anti-male gender bias, provable by its imbalanced coverage of domestic violence1 and by its 2018 publication of the repulsive Why can't we hate men? op‑ed.
You might recall that in August of last year I wrote to you about your reply to a father concerned about how his daughter dressed. In my letter to you, I argued that your response both insulted the father and helped to propagate feminist hypocrisy about the “objectification of women”.
I respectfully ask that you take the time to read this letter about your recent column in the Post, ‘Compassionate’ woman controls his whole life. Can that be abuse? and to thoughtfully consider what I say here.
Please don’t misunderstand. I was both pleased and surprised by your acknowledgement that men can also be abused by women, writing “Abuse isn’t about gender or age or role or physical strength.” However, at the risk of sounding unappreciative for this welcome admission, I’m still bothered by some remnants of feminist-inspired gender bias contained in your article:
“Abuse of women by men will be more common, sure, when accounting for a patriarchal society and likely physical strength advantages — but that’s only two types of power in a whole palette of them.”
Women Perpetuate at Least 50% of DV
The Washington Post has a long, troubling, and provable history of feminist-inspired gender bias. This bias is self-evident: for decades the Post has published thousands of sad articles about women beaten by their husbands or boyfriends, all but completely ignoring similar stories of millions of men who are equally battered by wives or of children that are beaten or even killed by mothers. — Domestic Violence: Feminism’s Big Lie
Your assertion that women are abused more than men is yet one more example of the Post’s feminist-driven distortions about domestic violence, a massive lie that is provably false. For proof, you should:
Visit The Partner Abuse State of Knowledge (PASK) website. PASK has performed an extensive review of 12,000 DV studies and concludes that domestic violence is NOT simply “men beating up women”. Be sure to view the video by Dr. Tonia Nicholls, The uncomfortable facts on IPV.
Read my post, Domestic Violence: Feminism’s Big Lie, that describes how feminists have threatened violence to further a massive feminist lie about DV: that women aren’t as violent as men.
A Patriarchal Society
If the Patriarchy, “…a social system that was designed by men to favor men” actually existed, it would have to be the most incompetent system ever devised by a supposedly dominant group.
Your reference to a “patriarchal society” illuminates both your anti-male gender bias and your own feminist-inspired ignorance. “The Patriarchy” is nothing more than hateful feminist propaganda.
This is explained in further detail in a letter I wrote to cartoonist Ann Telnaes about an August 2024 cartoon:
First, “The Patriarchy” is morally equivalent to the Nazi’s fiction of a “Jewish conspiracy”.
Second, if the Patriarchy, “…a social system that was designed by men to favor men” actually existed, it would have to be the most incompetent system ever devised by a supposedly dominant group.
Ms. Hax, thank you for telling the truth about domestic violence but please reconsider your belief that women are more often abused by men and your use of, and belief in, “The Patriarchy”.
PLEASE: Take the time to read some of the information provided by links in this letter.
It just might open your mind.
This observation was confirmed by a February 2023 report by The Coalition to End Domestic Violence that described a 10-Year Suppression of the Truth on Domestic Violence by the Washington Post.