The “manosphere” is the term typically given to male opposition to feminism’s lies, hate, and misandry. But many women who are speaking out against feminism can legitimately be considered an integral part of the manosphere. A list of these women can be found in my article Women of the Manosphere.
This article profiles just one these wonderful women, Esther Vilar.
Vilar is best known for her 1971 book The Manipulated Man.
The book argues that, contrary to feminist claims, women in industrialized cultures are not oppressed, but rather exploit a well-established system of manipulating men.
Like domestic violence researcher Suzanne Steinmetz and women’s shelter pioneer Erin Pizzey, Vilar was victimized by hateful feminists who vehemently objected to the three women’s honest depiction of the “dark side” of the female sex.
Steinmetz, after publishing a book, The Battered Husband Syndrome received death and bomb threats from radical women’s groups
Pizzey, after founding the world’s first women’s shelter in 1971 had feminists make bomb and death threats against her, and then killed her dog, for publicly revealing that women also commit substantial violence against men.
Vilar was “spat upon, shouted down, sued, picketed, [and] threatened by bombs…” for her bravery in telling the truth about how women manipulate men.
The experience of these three women — as well as others — show the hateful depths that feminists are willing to go to portray women as “poor oppressed females” and to deny female’s dark side.
As summarized on the book’s Wikipedia page,
The book argues that, contrary to common feminist and women’s rights rhetoric, women in industrialized cultures are not oppressed, but rather exploit a well-established system of manipulating men.
Vilar writes, “Men have been trained and conditioned by women, not unlike the way Pavlov conditioned his dogs, into becoming their slaves. As compensation for their labours men are given periodic use of a woman’s vagina.” The book contends that young boys are encouraged to associate their masculinity with their ability to be sexually intimate with a woman, and that a woman can control a man by socially empowering herself to be the gate-keeper to his sense of masculinity. Vilar states that this has been going on for some time.
The author says that social definitions and norms, such as the idea that women are weak, are constructed by women with their needs in mind. Vilar explains how it works: if women are viewed as weak, less is expected of them; and therefore they are given more leeway in society than men. Vilar states that women are generally “gold diggers” who attempt to extract money and other material resources from men. One means by which women control men to effect this transfer of resources is praise. Women dole out praise to men only when their needs are met in some way.
Another means of manipulation is the calculated use of emotional displays. Vilar claims that women can control their emotional reactions whereas men cannot, and that women create overly-dramatized emotional reactions to get their way: they “blackmail” men emotionally. Women also use sex as a tool of manipulation and control but also traditional concepts of love and romance, which are seen more positively than sex, to control men’s sexual lives. Vilar writes that men gain nothing from marriage and that women coerce them into it under the pretense that it fulfills their romantic desires.
The book closes with Vilar stating that it would be difficult to change the situation by appealing to women, as women are unsympathetic to the plight of men, and unwilling to give up their comfortable position in society. It is up to men to see past the deception and emotional blackmail and subject it to open criticism before any meaningful changes can occur.
Thank God for Esther and women like her! They are literally one-in-ten-million!
For other articles about other Women of the Manosphere.
By Stephen Bond on February 13, 2023.
Exported from Medium on February 28, 2023.