A Letter to Post Columnist Alyssa Rosenberg About Upcoming Father’s Day
Will Ms. Rosenberg Write a 2024 Father's Day Article that is ONLY About Fathers?
Father’s Day, 2024
Dear Ms. Rosenberg,
I know that you’re aware of my efforts to get the Post to recognize its imbalanced coverage of gender.1 I’ve been writing letters to Post columnists since 2018, after the Post published its Why can't we hate men? article.
As part of this campaign, last June I wrote to you about your Father’s Day article, This Father’s Day, stop treating dads as dopes, deadbeats or icebergs. My letter showed how, despite the father-friendly sounding title, your article promoted – perhaps unwittingly – feminist objectives under the guise of “helping fathers”.
Don’t get me wrong. I believe that your plea to “stop treating dads as dopes, deadbeats or icebergs” shows that your heart is in the right place, as you’re aware how our post-feminist society widely denigrates fathers.
But I also believe that sixty years of feminist indoctrination has made you – and millions of others – unable to see that this denigration of dads is only a very small part of the way that feminism spreads hatred of men and masculinity. (For proof, let me call your attention to the aforementioned Post op-ed “Why can’t we hate men?” and to my post, Feminism is a Hate Movement: In Their Own Words.)
I ended last year’s letter asking that for the next year, you consider writing an article that truly supports fathers. Father’s Day 2024 is now two weeks away. May I suggest that you write that column, one that is truly about fathers and not a stealthy promotion of the feminist agenda?
Please allow me to provide some helpful information to aid your effort.
Let me begin with a question: Did you know that one of feminism’s often-stated goals is the destruction of family and marriage, and the removal of fathers from both?
Here are some examples (please forgive such a long list of quotes – I felt it necessary to preclude any denial of this feminist goal):
“The nuclear family must be destroyed… Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break-up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process.” — Linda Gordon
“The complete destruction of traditional marriage and the nuclear family is the 'revolutionary or utopian' goal of feminism.” — Kate Millet, author of Sexual Politics
“In order to raise children with equality, we must take them away from families and communally raise them.” — Dr Mary Jo Bane, quoted in The Left's War on the Family
“Since marriage constitutes slavery for women, it is clear that the women's movement must concentrate on attacking this institution. Freedom for women cannot be won without the abolition of marriage.” — Sheila Cronin, co-founder of Feminists—A Political Organization to Annihilate Sex Roles
“The father is no longer essential to the economic survival of the unit. Men haven’t kept up with the changes in society; they don’t know how to be parents. Nobody has taught them: where are the cultural institutions to tell them that being a parent is a good thing? They don’t exist. At the same time, women don’t have many expectations of what men might provide.” — Anna Coote, Institute for Public Policy Research (England)
“We have to abolish and reform the institution of marriage...By the year 2000 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential, not God...We must understand what we are attempting is a revolution, not a public relations movement.” — Gloria Steinem, quoted in The Left's War on the Family
“The little nuclear family is a paradigm that just doesn't work. It doesn't work for white people or for black people. Why we are hanging on to it, I don't know.” — Toni Morrison, novelist and feminist, quoted in The Left's War on the Family
“We can’t destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage.” — Robin Morgan, editor, Ms. magazine, Sisterhood Is Powerful
“How will the family unit be destroyed? … the demand alone will throw the whole ideology of the family into question, so that women can begin establishing a community of work with each other and we can fight collectively. Women will feel freer to leave their husbands and become economically independent, either through a job or welfare.” — Roxanne Dunbar, “Female Liberation as the Basis for Social Revolution”
“Marriage has existed for the benefit of men; and has been a legally sanctioned method of control over women.... We must work to destroy it. The end of the institution of marriage is a necessary condition for the liberation of women. Therefore it is important for us to encourage women to leave their husbands and not to live individually with men.” — Nancy Lehmann and Helen Sullinger, “The Declaration of Feminism”, 1971
“Women’s liberation, if it abolishes the patriarchal family, will abolish a necessary substructure of the authoritarian state, and once that withers away Marx will have come true willy-nilly, so let’s get on with it.” — Germaine Greer, “The Female Eunuch ‘Revolution’”
“The institution of marriage is the chief vehicle for the perpetuation of the oppression of women; it is through the role of wife that the subjugation of women is maintained. In a very real way the role of wife has been the genesis of women's rebellion throughout history.” — Marlene Dixon, radical feminist professor at University of Chicago, “Why Women’s Liberation? Racism and Male supremacy”
“The married woman knows that love is, at its best, an inadequate reward for her unnecessary and bizarre heritage of oppression.” — radical feminists Beverly Jones and Judith Brown, Toward a Female Liberation Movement, 1968
Please take time to read about a consciousness-raising session held in 1969 by radical feminist Kate Millet that illuminates the hateful, conspiratorial thinking of early feminists who ominously called for “cultural revolution” and the “destruction of the American family”.
Finally, lest you believe that the goal to destroy the family is ancient history (many of the quotes above are indeed decades old), a radical Marxist-feminist, Sophie Lewis, has recently argued “… for reimagining the family as an arrangement in which children would no longer belong to their parents … but would instead be “raised by society as a whole.” Lewis has written two books that push this old Marxist idea: Abolish the Family: A Manifesto for Care and Liberation (2022) and Full Surrogacy Now: Feminism Against Family (2021).
That feminists have largely succeeded in their goal of destroying families can be found by declining rates of marriage (aided by a feminist-indoctrinated media that encourages women to avoid marriage), and increasing numbers of fatherless children, and the risks to these children.
Following are relevant topics that you may wish to consider for your Father’s Day column.
The Father Absence Crisis in America
Post columnist Colbert King has many times written about the need for fathers and the social costs of fatherless families. In a recent article, ‘Are Black fathers necessary? Damn straight we are.’, King quoted Lyndon Johnson from a 1965 commencement speech at Howard University:
“Less than half of all Negro children reach the age of 18 having lived all their lives with both of their parents.” …Little less than two-thirds are at home with both of their parents, The family is the cornerstone of our society. More than any other force it shapes the attitude, the hopes, the ambitions and the values of the child. And when the family collapses it is the children that are usually damaged. When it happens on a massive scale the community itself is crippled.”
Now, thanks to the success of feminism in removing fathers from families, the same crisis of missing fathers now negatively affects American families of all races.
According to the National Fatherhood Initiative, despite research that shows that a father's absence affects children in numerous unfortunate ways and a father's presence makes a positive difference in the lives of both children and mothers, according to the U.S. Census Bureau, 17.8 million children, nearly 1 in 4, live without a biological, step, or adoptive father in the home. That’s enough children to fill New York City twice or Los Angeles four times over.
The graphic below from the NFI’s “Statistics Tell the Story: Fathers Matter” page summarizes the findings.
Family Courts Bias Against Fathers
“Everyone knows that restraining orders and orders to vacate are granted to virtually all who apply . . . In many [divorce] cases, allegations of abuse are now used for tactical advantage.” – Elaine Epstein, former president of the Massachusetts Women’s Bar Association2
Although feminists emphatically deny that courts have an anti-male bias, the above quote concisely summarizes the reality that many fathers face in family and divorce courts. Among the many easily available sources that examine this bias, I highly recommend the following two books:
Taken Into Custody: The War Against Fathers, Marriage, and the Family — Stephen K. Baskerville, a leading authority on divorce, child custody and the family court system.
“This book is about our unwillingness to confront the most destructive and dangerous injustice in our society today: the systematic seizure of children by government officials and the criminalization of their parents. A parent today who has committed no legal infraction can have his (or sometimes her) parenthood and relationship with his children criminalized entirely through the actions of others in ways that are completely beyond his control. It focuses largely on fathers and on divorce, because these are the ones most commonly involved. But because the father is, as Margaret Mead once pointed out, the weakest link in the family chain, the threat to fathers is the first step in a larger assault on parents generally and the family as an institution.”
The Respondent: Exposing the Cartel of Family Law — Greg Ellis.
This book reads like a psychological gender horror story on par with Jordan Peele’s Get Out movie. It tells the terrifying experience of one father, Pirates of the Caribbean actor Greg Ellis, where, via a lie told by his vengeful wife “…[he] lost his home, career, and kids overnight after an [alleged] ’10-word lie’ saw him thrown into a psychiatric hospital and dragged through the family courts in America”3
“I have come to believe, based on hard experience, that as a society we embrace the false notion that women are naturally imbued with a more coherent, virtuous moral code than men. I am living proof that this just isn’t the case. My life has been negatively impacted by feminine rage, shame, vengeance, and dysfunction, and the fact that society conditions us to keep tales of female toxicity to ourselves does not change that. That basic reality does not make me a misogynist any more than a woman who has been wronged by a string of bad men makes her a misandrist.”
Paternity Fraud
Most people don’t know what paternity fraud is. Here’s the definition from Wikipedia:
“Paternity fraud, also known as misattributed paternity or paternal discrepancy, is when a man is incorrectly identified to be the biological father of a child. The underlying assumption of paternity fraud is that the mother deliberately misidentified the biological father. [emphasis added]”
As should surprise no one, feminists lie, obfuscate, or actively work to prevent legislation that addresses the problem. For example, the National Organization for Women,
“… pressured [California] Governor Gray Davis to veto the ‘Paternity Justice Act’ which would have helped curb the thousands of paternity fraud cases and protected innocent men from being victims of psychopathic women.” [source]
Ms. Rosenberg, I can only hope that you’ve read this far. If so, I thank you. I pray that I’ve opened your mind to damage done to fathers, families, marriage and children by feminism’s six-decade long campaign of political, legal, and cultural indoctrination.
If I have, please help me to convince reporters, columnists, and management at the Post that they need to reconsider their entire coverage of gender-related issues to eliminate their hateful, feminist-inspired, anti-male gender bias.
This Father’s Day, please write a column that truly helps fathers.
July 2025: A follow-up letter, A Belated Letter to Alyssa Rosenberg for Father’s Day 2025, was posted to Ms. Rosenberg as a helpful reminder of this suggestion.
This observation was recently confirmed by a February 2023 report by The Coalition to End Domestic Violence that described a 10-Year Suppression of the Truth on Domestic Violence by the Washington Post. For more, please see my post Domestic Violence: Feminism’s Big Lie that examines the Post’s long, troubling, and provable history of feminist-inspired gender bias about DV.
Greg Ellis shares harrowing story after '10-word lie' ruined his life overnight, Vicki Newman, The Mirror, 2021